"Why don't you want to feel anything about people you obviously care for an are close to?" Tom asks cautiously.
After some silence he adds. "You may not want to think of it in these terms but as someone who doesn't want sex a telepath who likes physical contact that isn't sexual may have some benefits to having intimacy without penetration coming on the table. I think you just need to find your wants and boundaries and talk to him about it. It may not be comfortable but Ziggy is open to many kinds of relationships if his past has said anything. Just... well our world being so intolerant of sexuality, gender and especially aliens he's sort of learned that quick sex and not lingering is safe. I wish he hadn't learned it but that is something too. He... the friends he trusted that might have had a relationship like you want are the people who assaulted him to end his career. There's a lot to take into account here but I'll help you as much as I can, or my wife can if you want a more alien perspective."
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2020-11-26 14:39 (UTC)After some silence he adds. "You may not want to think of it in these terms but as someone who doesn't want sex a telepath who likes physical contact that isn't sexual may have some benefits to having intimacy without penetration coming on the table. I think you just need to find your wants and boundaries and talk to him about it. It may not be comfortable but Ziggy is open to many kinds of relationships if his past has said anything. Just... well our world being so intolerant of sexuality, gender and especially aliens he's sort of learned that quick sex and not lingering is safe. I wish he hadn't learned it but that is something too. He... the friends he trusted that might have had a relationship like you want are the people who assaulted him to end his career. There's a lot to take into account here but I'll help you as much as I can, or my wife can if you want a more alien perspective."