"You might need to figure that out." Tom says as gently as possible. "It's going to be damned near impossible to start defining a relationship if you don't know what's in it or what you feel about the other person."
Tom was uncertain as they went on talking. It sounded like a lot of assumptions and very little knowledge. "Are you sure you both know? No penetration doesn't preclude something more than friendship especially for a species that can share minds and emotions. I'm not sure it even means no sex. I...."
Tom just clammed up thinking better of saying anything he'd experienced that was explicit instead he turned to the comment about Ickyness.
"Ziggy kisses everyone. He has since he was a child. Antehans thrive on physical contact. If they like you they're going to touch you." Except Tommy. Tommy didn't touch anyone really. Tom wasn't even sure if he liked anyone, though he did occasionally make physical contact with Aletayria. Still that wasn't relevant at the moment. "I had to adjust to the fact that he'll still curl up on my lap and sleep. Something humans don't do after they are a few years old."
"Maybe it would be worth thinking about limiting the kissing, like only as a first greeting or something? Or I don't know convince him kissing your shoulder is better and then there's always clothing in the way? Might be a greeting you could return then without being bothered?" Tom was grasping here between this kid's comfort and the woefully stubborn and impulsive behavior of his own child.
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2020-11-25 00:55 (UTC)Tom was uncertain as they went on talking. It sounded like a lot of assumptions and very little knowledge. "Are you sure you both know? No penetration doesn't preclude something more than friendship especially for a species that can share minds and emotions. I'm not sure it even means no sex. I...."
Tom just clammed up thinking better of saying anything he'd experienced that was explicit instead he turned to the comment about Ickyness.
"Ziggy kisses everyone. He has since he was a child. Antehans thrive on physical contact. If they like you they're going to touch you." Except Tommy. Tommy didn't touch anyone really. Tom wasn't even sure if he liked anyone, though he did occasionally make physical contact with Aletayria. Still that wasn't relevant at the moment. "I had to adjust to the fact that he'll still curl up on my lap and sleep. Something humans don't do after they are a few years old."
"Maybe it would be worth thinking about limiting the kissing, like only as a first greeting or something? Or I don't know convince him kissing your shoulder is better and then there's always clothing in the way? Might be a greeting you could return then without being bothered?" Tom was grasping here between this kid's comfort and the woefully stubborn and impulsive behavior of his own child.