Tom was catching up quickly to the situation. "The gist of the situation is that you were looking to feel his emotions and by the same account he would feel that you wanted to experience them, then took someone attracted to you to the back seat of my car to rub your hands over him and he got aroused and hard which upset both of you?"

When you have Ziggy Stardust for a child there's not an iota of shame left when it comes to mentioning anything about sex or sexuality. Tom shook his head. "I'm going to assume you don't engage in sex acts or you're a virgin who isn't ready?"

While the words are on the crass side there's no judgement to how they're spoken. Tom is really just trying to understand the flow of the evening around what happened. There's a sigh and a pause. "You told him no and then kissed an upset and aroused person you don't want to have sex with thinking that would help them feel...better? less aroused?"

CHRIST! Now the blow up from Ziggy and the reluctance to talk made sense. He doesn't know these two as well as his own child.

"That's a lot of hot and cold in a hurry." he mentions and then nods with furrowed brows. "I think what you felt at the end might be the equivalent of a human feeling bad and wanting to be small or to disappear?"